Why You Need to Be Totally Honest With Your Divorce Attorney
In the midst of it all, your divorce attorney is your closest legal ally. That’s why total honesty with your attorney isn’t just important—it’s essential.
Your Attorney Must Have All The Details – Good and Bad
Your attorney can only do their job effectively when they have the full picture. Every detail you provide will shape the legal strategy, and even something that may seem small or insignificant to you could have major legal implications. If you choose to withhold certain information or selectively share details, you are making it extremely difficult for your attorney to resolve the issues in your case. They can’t protect your interests against surprises that they didn’t see coming.
And last-minute surprises? That is the last thing any attorney wants to face, especially in court. Whether a hidden asset that suddenly surfaces or an unexpected allegation raised during negotiations, catching your attorney off guard can undermine your entire case. The moment a new piece of information comes from the opposing side that your attorney should have heard from you, it doesn’t just shift the momentum—it damages your attorney’s ability to respond effectively and potentially harm your credibility.
Trust Between You and Your Attorney Is Fundamental
Credibility is a key piece of the attorney-client relationship. Much like trust in a marriage, trust between an attorney and their client is foundational. If that trust erodes because you withheld information or told half-truths, the partnership begins to crack, and the legal support you depend on may weaken as a result. Attorneys must be able to rely on their clients just as much as clients rely on their attorneys.
Divorce law demands transparency. Assets need to be fully disclosed, and financial honesty is legally required to reach a fair resolution. Hiding things—intentionally or not—can not only hurt your case but may result in legal consequences.
Don’t Worry About Embarrassment
If your concern is embarrassment or fear of being judged, remember that what you share with your attorney is protected by attorney-client privilege. What you say stays between the two of you. More importantly, something you view as damaging or humiliating may not be legally significant at all—but your attorney can’t help you if she doesn’t know.
Total Honesty Serves Your Best Interests
In short, honesty isn’t just the best policy — it’s the only way to ensure your attorney can truly advocate for you and help you through your divorce with confidence and clarity.
Lynette Kim is a Los Angeles based attorney who focuses her practice on Mediation and Collaborative Divorce processes. She can help you through the rough waters of divorce, resulting in a positive outcome and bright future.
Compassion for my clients is important to me, and that’s why I’ve remained a family law practitioner for 30 years — and still love what I do. I’m keenly aware of the emotional toll divorce can have on you and your family. As you navigate the rough waters of transition, my team and I will help you find your balance. We’re here to support you in making the best decisions for your future. I’ve seen the positive results again and again when couples embrace meditation or collaborative divorce. I’d be honored to share these practices with you and set your family on a healthy path.
