Divorce Misconceptions: It Is Better to Wait Until the Children are Grown
A common misconception is that married couples with children should wait until the children are grown to get divorced no matter how much animosity there is between them. In almost every case, this is not true.
A home where parents are constantly bickering or where love between the two seems non-existent, can affect children adversely and make it harder to adjust post-divorce later in life. It is better for unhappy couples to divorce and allow their children to ease peacefully away from constant negativity.
Couples Can Divorce Without Animosity and Make a Parenting Plan that is in the Best Interest of the Children
Mediation is a way for couples to settle their issues without going to trial. You work with a mediator, and you can also call on the help of experts if needed. The mediator may bring in a child specialist to work with you and your spouse, if needed, as you put together a parenting plan.
The parenting plan will include:
- When the children spend time with each parent including vacations and holidays.
- Where the children will go to school.
- What extracurricular activities the children will be involved in.
- Which parent will provide transportation for visitation, overnight visits and more.
Depending on the age of the children, they may be brought into the mediation process and asked their opinion about what they need and how they want their lives to look going forward. They need to know what they say is confidential, and their wishes are considerations and not necessarily the way the outcome will be.
Mediation is not an adversarial process, so that parents can work together as their children grow to adulthood. The mediation process means that you can divorce without the animosity that comes from litigation.
For children this is a much better atmosphere in which to thrive. Their homes are two separate environments that are not contentious. It is considered better for them than having to live with two fighting parents and in a home where love is not present.
Contact Kim Mediation and Law Center for Help
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Compassion for my clients is important to me, and that’s why I’ve remained a family law practitioner for 30 years — and still love what I do. I’m keenly aware of the emotional toll divorce can have on you and your family. As you navigate the rough waters of transition, my team and I will help you find your balance. We’re here to support you in making the best decisions for your future. I’ve seen the positive results again and again when couples embrace meditation or collaborative divorce. I’d be honored to share these practices with you and set your family on a healthy path.
