Often, when spouses begin the divorce process, one or both parties feel like it is the end of the world. For some whose identity was defined by being their spouse, the world as they know it is ending. Their sense of who they are comes crumbling down.
Years ago, two psychiatrists studied the stress levels of 43 life events. They ranked the events in order of stress and determined that divorce is the second most stressful experience a person can go through, second only to the death of a spouse.
Overcoming the Feeling that Divorce is the End of the World
As difficult as it may seem, divorce offers a clean slate where you can learn from your mistakes and get a chance to look inward. This would include concentrating on being a better communicator, a partner, a parent, and anything else that would improve your relationships.
A Collaborative Divorce can help with this. You and your spouse meet with your own attorneys and a team of professionals who can help you through the process.
You can work with a financial professional to figure out your goals for the future, including budgeting your income for everyday needs.
If you have children, you will need to work together until they are grown and on their own. A child psychologist can meet with you and your spouse to help you prepare a parenting plan that benefits everyone, especially the children. A divorce coach will help you deal with potential emotional issues.
Divorce is never easy. But if you can go into the process with a plan to have a peaceful divorce, and treat each other with civility and respect, a post-divorce future doesn’t have to be bleak. Let it be an opportunity to grow and be your own person. It isn’t the end of the world, it’s the start of a new one.
Contact Kim Mediation and Law Center to Learn More
For more information about a peaceful divorce and how you can deal with a process that is not the end of the world, call Kim Mediation and Law Center at 213-351-1000 to schedule a free case evaluation.