Many people feel that they have ended their current relationship and marriage once they have told the other party that the relationship is over and cannot be salvaged and want to begin again with someone new. Unfortunately, it can take months or even years, in some cases, for a divorce to be finalized and for both parties to be legally single once again. This leaves many divorcing parties in the tough predicament of deciding whether they can or should date while a divorce is in progress. Here is some advice as to whether you should date during the divorce process.
1. Give Yourself Time to Process Things
Before you even think about dating anyone, it is important that you take some time to really think through the ending of your marriage and if it is really over. It is not uncommon for one or both parties dealing with separate issues that can put a strain on a marriage. When problems are sorted out, spouses might realize just how much they love one other. Before jumping into the dating game, you should think about everything carefully and decide if ending your marriage is the right thing to do.
2. Allow Yourself to Heal
Most experts do not recommend that you start dating again immediately after filing for a divorce. In fact, it is strongly recommended that you should wait at least a year after the divorce is final before you start dating. Avoiding a new relationship allows time to heal, time to rediscover yourself, and time to think about what you truly want from life and to take your time while searching for that special someone.
3. Consider Your Children
The majority of couples who divorce have children. If you have children, you will want to be extra cautious before you start dating during the divorce. Your children are going through a challenging time full of change. The last thing they want is to be introduced to new people in their life. It can also be confusing for them to see one or both parents moving on instantly as if the family life they had never mattered. You may want to focus on your children as much as possible after a divorce, and if you do date, try to avoid introducing them to your children until you are sure it is serious and that your children are ready to meet the person who has become an important part of your life.
4. Take Things Slow
While it is recommended to avoid dating at the end of a divorce, not everyone moves at the same pace, and when you meet someone special, you may decide that now is the perfect time to start dating again. If you decide to date after filing for divorce, it is important that you take things slow. Try not to share dating experiences or pictures on social media, especially if you are in the middle of a heated or contested divorce. Not everyone needs to know you are dating again. Some things are best kept private, and if you are dating while in the divorce process, keeping things quiet can be beneficial.
Going through a divorce can be emotionally, mentally, and financially challenging. This is why you need an attorney who understands the process and can help guide you through it. If you are considering getting a divorce, or are ready to file, Kim Mediation and Law Center can help you. Contact Kim Mediation & Law today.