In a divorce, sometimes the question arises, “What will be the fate of my relationships with the extended family?” As a married couple, you have become close to family members on both sides. But when there is a divorce, the extended family can close ranks around their family member going through the divorce. But does that mean you have to sever ties with the extended family?

Despite the touchy nature of the situation, divorce doesn’t inherently mean parting ways with everyone. Maintaining civility and approaching the situation amicably can play a pivotal role in preserving relationships with the extended family.

It is the responsibility of you and your spouse to keep communication pathways open with the extended family. You need to recognize the importance of expressing a desire to maintain those relationships. This communication will reassure the extended family that the divorce process is being handled with civility. By actively communicating your goals to have them to avoid taking sides, you can create an atmosphere conducive to maintaining familial bonds.

 Effective communication can prevent turning you and your spouse into enemies. Working through your divorce using the Collaborative Divorce or Mediation processes is always helpful. The absence of a legal mandate forcing unpleasantness toward the extended family underscores the importance of personal choices in navigating post-divorce relationships.

When children are involved, maintaining amicable relations with the extended family becomes even more critical. The inevitable circumstances where you and your spouse will interact, whether at family events or shared parenting responsibilities, make preserving positive ties with the extended family a wise choice. Maintaining positive connections will always benefit your children.

In the maze of divorce, the path to preserving extended family ties may not be straightforward. But through empathy, communication, and a commitment to amicability, it is a path worth exploring. After all, the end of one chapter doesn’t have to mark the end of an entire familial story.

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