Divorce cases are almost always stressful and the emotional tension between two people can make the divorce process extremely difficult.  We have three tips to help you manage emotions during the strenuous days and weeks after separation.

1. Don’t Go It Alone

Human interaction is important, especially during a time of crisis.  A divorce can be very traumatic and it is important to not go through the trauma alone.  A capable and understanding Collaborative Attorney would be very beneficial during this time.  Therapy would also be helpful and a friend you can lean on is always a plus.  It is important not to isolate yourself and one should allow others to lend a helping hand.

2. Keep Negative Thoughts and Conversations at Bay

When divorcing your spouse, it can be easy to slip into conflict. However, this only hurts you in the long run.  Keep things cordial, avoid power struggles and situations that could lead to arguments with your ex.  There are many coping tactics that can be practiced to avoid letting conflict get in the way of your divorce settlement.  Finding a good legal counselor can be the first step to help you get through this process.

3. Practice Self-Care

Divorce is difficult and stressful, and you need to nurture yourself, even in the emotional trenches.  Spiritual or “religious”, if so inclined, meditation, can help to keep the nerves calm.  Physical activity, like going on morning or evening walks, or joining a workout class, can have obvious benefits that are healthy for your mind and body.  Take this time to focus your interests on things that you may have neglected during the marriage, such as hobbies, reading, or learning a new skill.  Spending time with animals is very good for soothing and calming the soul.

Managing emotions in a divorce is not something to get through on your own.  It is difficult, and often individuals need friends and professionals to allow them to cope properly.  In Collaborative Divorce, a divorce coach can help in the communication process between both parties which can tone down over heated conversations and return things to normal.

If you need help with your divorce, call 213-351-1000 or contact us at Kim Mediation and Law Center for a free 15-minute phone consultation.